What are you doing today?

[Fishmanic]

That sounds like a scam to me. They’re offering you a debit card. A debit card has to be funded by you, either by money order, bank check, or a link to your bank account. Then the likely scammer will abscond with your money. Be cautious when getting financial related messages, even from a company you already deal with. Always look at the email address of the sender and if it doesn't look proper, be suspicious. Don't send anyone that sends a suspect email, your hard earned money or any bank account or credit card numbers.

 

[jaylach]

Are you sure this email is even real? It sounds like a scam email to me.

That sounds like a scam to me. They’re offering you a debit card. A debit card has to be funded by you, either by money order, bank check, or a link to your bank account. Then the likely scammer will abscond with your money. Be cautious when dealing with anyone that sends you an email. Always look at the address of the sender. Dont send anyone like that any of your hard earned money or any bank account number.

First question is if there is an actual account with Capital One and if the current card is close to expiring. Since the bank was called I suspect this to be the case. Still, it is odd that there was an email involved as I've never gotten such when a card was being replaced.

 

[Lanpenn]

Indeed, it is a verified e-mail. According to Google Mail: "The sender of this email has verified that they own bankcommunication.capitalone.com and the logo in the profile image."

I have this account still. I receive the bank statements every week, but since I do not have a US phone number anymore and since I do not live in the US any longer, I can not access the account. It is always that damn two-factor authentication.

My current debit card has been expired since last year, or this current year, if I am not mistaken. Several months ago, a transaction with that old card has occurred, but since the card had expired, this did not succeed (the second time I had to call them, they told me that).

I find this absurd.

 

[Rusty_Shackleford]

So a little glimpse into my life tonight. It's now 10:14 pm ET.
About 7:30 tonight my wife went to pick up her 32 yr Old son. At 8 pm she called and told me to take the other car and leave as her son was on yet another meth binge and wants to kill me. Awesome, he has a gun, bow and knives in his room. I went to Walmart and called the police. They went over to my house and talked to my wife who lied as usual to protect this POS drug addict. The police advised me to stay somewhere else tonight. Where? I'm not from here and the only people I know here are the 4 other people that live in this house. I'm not letting a drug addict run my life so I'm going back home. I'm going to the court house first thing Monday morning and getting an order of protection. If I'm s still alive. He's already assaulted me once 3 years ago and I should have put his hillbilly ass in jail then. So yeah, what a nice relaxing Saturday night.

 

[WhistlingBadger]

So a little glimpse into my life tonight. It's now 10:14 pm ET.
About 7:30 tonight my wife went to pick up her 32 yr Old son. At 8 pm she called and told me to take the other car and leave as her son was on yet another meth binge and wants to kill me. Awesome, he has a gun, bow and knives in his room. I went to Walmart and called the police. They went over to my house and talked to my wife who lied as usual to protect this POS drug addict. The police advised me to stay somewhere else tonight. Where? I'm not from here and the only people I know here are the 4 other people that live in this house. I'm not letting a drug addict run my life so I'm going back home. I'm going to the court house first thing Monday morning and getting an order of protection. If I'm s still alive. He's already assaulted me once 3 years ago and I should have put his hillbilly ass in jail then. So yeah, what a nice relaxing Saturday night.

Need to get that guy together with Juicebox's "friend" and let them fight it out. Be smart and live to fight another day.

 

[GaryE]

@Rusty_Shackleford - check in today so we can know you're okay. There's nothing we can do to help, but we want to know how you are in all this.

 

[Rusty_Shackleford]

@Rusty_Shackleford - check in today so we can know you're okay. There's nothing we can do to help, but we want to know how you are in all this.

Thanks @GaryE I made it through the night, not much sleep though.
I haven't seen the boy, he'll probably be sleeping it off for another 24 hours.
What's so ironic about this situation is my wife works for out county's health department. She is the head of the Quck Response Team, and she works with addicts and people with mental health issues every day. She's good at what she does and places 5 to 10 people in treatment facilities every month. Yet her own child continues to want to be an addict. Anyway, time to feed the fish.

 

[GaryE]

What I've seen of addiction is it's no choice. You make terrible decisions and you're caught, but making the decision to kick it is more often falling into a process from something outside happening, from what I've seen. I never made the terrible first decisions, so my knowledge (such as it is) is from the outside looking in. A lot of friends did make that killing choice.

Here, some old friends just left early for a long drive back to their home. We get a lot of people talking about where they live and how they appreciate it. Walking with friends from elsewhere sharpens your eyes to the things you've slowly begun to take for granted. I feel a greater appreciation for the beauty of my little coastal city/region, from seeing how much they enjoyed the things I'm now almost used to.

 

[Rusty_Shackleford]

What I've seen of addiction is it's no choice. You make terrible decisions and you're caught, but making the decision to kick it is more often falling into a process from something outside happening, from what I've seen. I never made the terrible first decisions, so my knowledge (such as it is) is from the outside looking in. A lot of friends did make that killing choice.

Here, some old friends just left early for a long drive back to their home. We get a lot of people talking about where they live and how they appreciate it. Walking with friends from elsewhere sharpens your eyes to the things you've slowly begun to take for granted. I feel a greater appreciation for the beauty of my little coastal city/region, from seeing how much they enjoyed the things I'm now almost used to.

What postcard did you steal that photo from? That's beautiful.
Yeah just like an alcoholic, they have to hit rock bottom and make that choice that they are serious about charging and getting treatment. Maybe going to jail will be rock bottom for him. He's already been kicked out of two treatment programs, so perhaps he needs to go away for a program to work.

 

[gwand]

I had that issue with my older brother. He refused help. He died in Amsterdam at the age of 22 from an OD.

 

[Rusty_Shackleford]

I had that issue with my older brother. He refused help. He died in Amsterdam at the age of 22 from an OD.

I'm so sorry brother. I know a loss like that isn't easy.

 

[GaryE]

A lot of people here and elsewhere have similar stories, and they're all just as sad. It may have been a while back, but @gwand , I'm sorry you went through that. And @Rusty_Shackleford , sorry you're up against it now.

I had a friend who fell off a roof during a fireworks show. His cause of death wasn't considered to be his addiction. He was a very bright guy, when he wasn't high.

 

[gwand]

Most of my research portfolio was devoted to investigating the neurobiology of chemical dependency. My brother’s death and my father’s alcoholism were driving factors.

 

[GaryE]

Most of my research portfolio was devoted to investigating the neurobiology of chemical dependency. My brother’s death and my father’s alcoholism were driving factors.

Looking at it from another life, I guess there's a real choice you made. You can follow the family paths, or try to do something about them in your own way, whatever that is. Addiction to booze slaughtered the World War 2 vet older generation of my family, and their kids had some difficult lifestyle decisions to make. Addicts never think about the ripples their decisions send out so widely, and how they can have an impact on people they never even meet.

A lot of people get into our little fish hobby in an attempt to find something other than substances to occupy their energy. I've known a lot of struggling alcohol, and opiate survivors still trying to keep surviving with this hobby. I recently had a guy here to get some fish who had quite a story of cocaine addiction, then religious mania/cult membership, then cocaine again and now rehab, a young family and a brave attempt to get things on track - I hope he makes it. All I can do is listen and support his attempts. I was also recently rocking a baby who was in care after being born addicted and had recently finished his detox. You wonder what happens with addiction when a child like that becomes an adult.

 

[MattW]

Today I've had to pull out my Bucket O' Fish out of retirement. My 12L tank has been hindering my fry's growth. I actually added the fry to my 90L but found even when in a breeding box, some very intrigued adults were stalking the fry. Now I've dumped them in a bucket which has twice the volume of the 12L. The only issue is that this bucket doesn't hold heat well, even with its makeshift lid I made..