Stop Fighting!

[ClownLurch]

Im putting myself on ignore. That’ll teach me.

 

[DAnCSF]

Long,long ago I tried teaching some fish to not attack another..by trying to chase him away with a stick. I had Pavlov's dog in mind. But,I could never be able to catch him doing it if I wasn't looking into the aquarium. I gave up!
I think thats how many people start adding more aquariums..they like the fish,but its not compatible and so it goes..

Alas I not sure fish are teachable - even those dog like cichlids,,,which I think are more cat like in their "teacherability"...

 

[DAnCSF]

As a Deadhead once said at a concert...take a step back....Social media is like that, great medium for venting, lashing out, etc...but we all need to sometimes take a step back and allow for others to vent and not take things so seriously and personally... this is a great place for us fish people....carry on and keep calm all....

 

[WhistlingBadger]

Speak for yourself you big woosy

OK, THAT DOES IT, PAL. NOBODY CALLS ME A WOOSY!!!

 

[WhistlingBadger]

(what is a woosy, exactly?)

 

[PheonixKingZ]

(what is a woosy, exactly?)

It's what you are.

 

[mcordelia]

May also be cultural to a degree. I get on hubby's case for always instigating with me, and he's completely clueless why I'm upset where he comes from, you're not "listening" to the other person unless you pose a counterargument to their point all - the - friggin - time. I love him, but sometimes I just tell him to keep his mouth shut so I can get what I need said without having to debate my case each time haha

 

[Colin_T]

woosy = Australian slang for someone who is acting like a wimp, not willing to stand up for yourself, often referred to as a big girl's blouse. It's all said in jest to friends that we stir up.

 

[DAnCSF]

May also be cultural to a degree. I get on hubby's case for always instigating with me, and he's completely clueless why I'm upset where he comes from, you're not "listening" to the other person unless you pose a counterargument to their point all - the - friggin - time. I love him, but sometimes I just tell him to keep his mouth shut so I can get what I need said without having to debate my case each time haha

Ahh but there's not a problem with with posing counter-arguments/points. But it can be donw in a civil and reason way just as long as one actually listens to the other party. After all ain't it okay to agree to disagree and still have a drink with each other....LOL

 

[mcordelia]

Completely agree with you. Tone, however, is terribly difficult to convey over only text. We aren't all pulitzer prize winning authors having discourse here (in fact, I would be shocked if any of us were ), and how often is it that friends at a bar get heated over a beer before someone steps in to modulate it a bit? I think it's entirely common that misunderstandings happen and the "bandwagony" nature of the internet/forums makes it easy to gang up on someone, compounding the issue.

 

[WhistlingBadger]

This is so, so perfect:
Argument - Monty Python - YouTube

 

[Fishmanic]

This is so, so perfect:
Argument - Monty Python - YouTube

so, anyone who wants to argue here has to pay TFF $5 for 5 argumentative posts

 

[CassCats]

 

[finfayce]

I know I’m not the only one getting tired of peoples personal beefs about one another getting pulled into posts. If you have a problem with someone and want to discuss it with them, please take it to the Conversation tab and speak to them personally. Don’t pull the rest of us into your personal issues with someone. We’d prefer to stay on topic in a post and don’t want to hear your fighting and arguing. It’s rediculous and childish. If someone.crosses the line then report it. Just keep it out of the posts, please! OK, I’ll quit now. Be nice!

i quit this forum for quite awhile when people were complaining about too many people in the world and thinking a mouse in a hot fryer is humorous. Deanna do you ever delete especially unkind posts or going on about world
problems? if not deleted do you flag that post or is there a place on this website for that kind of thing? ie somewhere people who are only discussing aquatic things and don’t want to read those kinds of posts. thanks.

 

[finfayce]

For those that do get under your skin, TFF has an ignore feature. Just click on the user's name and it's right there, bottom left. I've used it a couple times. It works pretty good.

thanks