I'm So Upset Atm.

[Paradise3]

I recently lost both my brothers to their dad. They can't even visit me and my mum anymore! I miss them so much and i want them home but that's never gonna happen because their dad started making up stories about my mum and now both my brothers have to live with him. They want to come home but they can't. They are only 4 and 7 years old and they are going to live the rest of their life without a mum now!
I need comforting. I'm crying just thinking about it, i miss them.

Missy x.

 

[BethK]

BIG HUGS XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

First off, are social services aware? Is he making your mum pay child benefits? Is there anything legal set in place to say that she can not see her children?

Sorry if this is a bit too personal, just seeing if there is an avenue around this xx

 

[Paradise3]

Thank you for the hugs. Yes social services did this. They said that she cannot see them which means i can't either. Don't know about child benefits.

Missy x.

 

[BethK]

Thank you for the hugs. Yes social services did this. They said that she cannot see them which means i can't either. Don't know about child benefits.

Missy x.

That's unfair, I won't ask why they did that as it's your personal life but if you need to talk to someone, you can always PM me x

 

[chrisbassist]

Hmm sounds odd. Social don't normally award custody to the dad without a good reason.
I won't pry into that though.

If it puts your mind at ease at all, I wish I'd lived with my dad when they split up, even if at the time it would have upset me. But I see the environment my sisters have grown up in and I'm jealous. My mum married a complete ...... Who had lots of money and from then on it seemed like my love was just bought with expensive holidays and stuff. Whereas my dad has nothing to give, but is very caring and supportive.
I guess what I'm saying is give it a chance and see if they are better off. And there should be no reason you can't see them. But you may have to do it yourself, not through your mum.

 

[rdd1952]

It's a shame that people go to such lengths to get back at their exes when it ends up hurting the kids so much. I wish you luck and hope things turn out ok.

 

[steelhealr]

I can understand how you feel and the pain that you must be in. You must be strong and find people and professionals that you can talk to that will help you through these times. SH

 

[Paradise3]

I hope i see them again even if it's not for long.

Missy x.

 

[simonas]

are social services, or the court order they;ve obtained seriously stopping you from seeing your brothers as well? thats strange if thats the case cos even when kids are taken into care away from their parents the courts try as much as possible to ensure that brothers and sisters are kept in touch. After all the law states that " the welfare of the child is paramount" and young brothers welfare should be seeing their family ie sister

I don;t know how old you are but you could make an appt at a sollicitors who do family law under legal aid and see if you can apply for some form of contact?

 

[seffieuk]

I'm sorry to hear you are unhappy. If you would like to talk privatly via pm you know where I am and you know what I do. i might at least be able to reassure you about the process of entitlement to contact etc.

Seffie x

 

[walkers101]

at your age there is no law stoppng you seeing your brothers i would follow it up if i were you.

 

[kaivalagi]

I am so sorry to hear the pain you're obviously in, hopefully the contact limitations you are talking about are only a short term thing and that all concerned will come around...I would pursue free legal aid if that will help but to be honest I can't believe the social services would do this. I have a good friend who is a social worker, if I can speak to her I am sure she could highlight some legal routes for you to get access to your brothers...
Could all of you meet at a grandparents for example? Under their supervision?

 

[seffieuk]

Dear All

Can i urge caution here please, Missy is obviously a vulnerable young lady.

Missy, please seek help and support from your social worker or an adult you trust at school, seek out the Designated Teacher - if you don't know who they are ask your form tutor.

Take care

Seffie x

 

[england]

Iam sorry to hear your trouble's....Life is dificult and going through this at any age is terrifying....

As already stated please seek help for this,I would suggest as seffie has mentioned speaking with the school you attend,Then they can help you seek advise and inform you, what sounds like is truely needed is comunnications with all partys involved, this is where i would say listen to simonas. this is what he does daily..

Good luck to you and you family, hope it can be resolved..

 

[hughessomefish]

sorry bud ,my mom works in social services and,I do volunteer work at her work with the kids.This happens way to often.But what I see the most is things will work them self's out. Just don't give up you will see them again.

Just don't give up hope.

And don't bottle up the sadness find some one to talk to even if there on this forum but always get help when you need it,we all hit a time in our lives when we need some one to talk to we all eventually will need help.