I did not say Ember tetras specifically. You were earlier saying green neon tetras in a 3 gallon are fine. I will admit that I have never kept green neons or ember tetras, and therefore have no first hand experience with them. Regardless of the activity level of green neon and ember tetras, they are schooling fish. Schooling fish need a minimum of 5 in their group, though 8 is better. A 3 gallon tank does not provide the necessary space needed to house a suitable group of these fish. Without a suitable group of these fish, they will be unhappy. Fit a suitable size group of these fish in this tank and they will be cramped and unhappy.I sure can. You put an angel in a 20 gallon and it will almost certainly be stunted after a year. As for ember being active - i'm not sure you have ever owned the fish. I've had them in 5 gallon aquarium, 29 gallon aquarium and 120 gallon aquarium and they are pretty much stationary unless something large approaches them. I guess if that is your defn of active then i hate to see what you call a turtle sunny itself.
Just as you have right to believe ember tetras are fine in a 3 gallon, @Obsessed with fish's LFS has a right to believe angels are fine in 20 gallons*. We are not calling you pathetic for this belief. Ultimately, there is a truth in the situation whether our opinions line up with it or not.
*To clarify, I do not think angels should be in 20 gallons, though that fish store is saving a lot of fish being purchased for 5 and 10 gallon tanks by setting a limit.