Its A Love Story

[Night61]

so i know our many of our members have sucessful love stories.
i also know many like me are still out thier looking for that speical some one. so i am creating this topic for members to not only share their love stories, but maybe encourage the ones that ate still looking. maybe guide us to a website that helped you out, or give advice and encouragement to ones just starting out or looking to start out.
i know for myself i am looking for a free web site, i have tried both ok cupid and pleanty of fish with no sucess.

so go ahead everyone share your love story with us

 

[chrisbassist]

Just keep your eyes open. And your mind too. Some people are really really nice despite having some excess weight or something.

I met my wife at work.

I was her boss.

Somehow that seems to have flipped around now.

 

[GAB99]

i get all the girls at school i meet but i cant get over the 'ask out threshold' then again im moving so why bother lol, i get funny looks (like this ) when someone says talking to girls is hard and i ( ) say no its not they laugh at everything and it doesnt even have to be funny sometimes lol

 

[chrisbassist]

asking people out can be a daunting challenge. but really it shouldn't be.

ask yourself, whats the worst that could happen?

they say no and tell you where you can go...

and? who cares, move on to the next...



I remember when I was younger, getting drunk, going to watch a band, but while i was in the line outside, I'd go down the line, tell each girl I loved them and asked them if they'd go out with me.... then proceeded to collapse on the floor... (only sometimes though) most of the time, I'd get near the front, and the 20th or 30th girl would say yes, and i'd have got right near the front of the line to go in... I'd then have a good night, and then never see them again...


the laws of probability state that for every so many girls you ask out 1 will say yes... so you just keep going, and if they've just seen you ask out another 10 girls before them, sure, you may get a slap, but eventually you'll get lucky...

 

[simonas]

I;ve always been of opinion that unless youmake first move you;ll still be waiting years later. I have mates like that who never got a sniff when they were out

I just asked girls out whenout and in work and never had a problem I think girls quite like that andat the ened of the day whats the worst that can happen

I met my mrs at work she was my secretary and within a couple of weeks of her start we started having what was only meant to be a casual fling but we've been married nearly 6 yrs and together for longer than that andas Chrissaid the roles have been reversed now shes the boss

advice is just go for it even if you think they are way out of your league you will be pleasantly surprised!!

 

[OldMan47]

I remember being the shy and restrained young person. Something that I learned fairly early on was that the most beautiful girls, the ones that everyone wanted to date, never got asked. It was not that they were unattractive but that everyone else was afraid to ask them out for fear of being rejected. Being the nerd that I was, I did not hesitate to ask them out and, as it turns out, they were glad that someone had finally asked them. The most extreme beautiful girls and women often are not approached by decent guys because the guys are intimidated by them. We are not talking about the worst of the cads here, they approach everyone indiscriminately and are not worthy of knowing, but the nice guys. As it turns out the nicest of those ladies can be lonely for real personal contact too.

 

[hensonc4098]

As a girl myself, I can confirm many of your thoughts... We'd rather a guy just ask us out than have him going about around us for ages but nothing really going on. And it is also true that guys think we would get asked out randomly all the time if you're half-decent looking, but we actually don't. So it's kinda nice if a guy works up the guts to actually ask us - 9 times out of 10 we'll say yes and give it a go just because they were brave enough to ask. So don't be scared - go for it!

 

[MewMew42]

I met my other half when i was seeing one of his best friends that i knew through friends of friends, the guy I was seeing at the time was too sacred to ask me out at first lol as aparently my 'looks' intimidated him mad right?
but it turns out we werent so compatible and we broke up, only to talk to Matt [the other half] via msn and we got to talking, I had tickets to go see A7X with my ex and my best friend but he didnt wanna go and instead gave the ticket to matt, so the first time we actually met was at the train station ready to go to the gig [but i was late becuase i glued my fingers together with super glue...but thats anotehr story] he was really sweet and gave me his jacket whe i was cold lol after the gig on the way home, just as he was about to leave he gave me a kiss on the forehead a few days later we were together and now 4 years later here we are

no one on this planet could understand my geekiness like he does!

 

[kaivalagi]

I met my other half whilst travelling the globe, I ended up in a remote part of Fiji just chilling and scuba-diving for 6 months (for free eventually!)

She worked in the hotel where I first stayed and just mesmerised me with her naive yet confident ways, a pure soul if ever there was one. One day I plucked up the courage to ask her to the local (< 100 seat) cinema, when she turned up to meet me she was accompanied with here cousin brother (fijian thing) and 3 nieces/nephews, she was also wearing god awful dungarees That didn't put me off and we started seeing more of each other, eventually alone but were the talk of Levuka town for a good while...one thing led to another and we ended up living together for the next 4 months up in the hills of Levuka (in a traditional Fijian settlement called Baba) with her sister, brother-in-law (my brother, another Fijian thing) and their kids in a little shack of a house with no electricity.

After that I got a job in the capital and stayed with her for another year in our own place (with electricity and A/C) before we eventually got married. One more year in Fiji and I couldn't find more work so we then came back to the UK with our 6 month old son, who's now 6.

Someday we'll head back to the same place for an early retirement and live out the rest of our years together there...until then it's a once every two year trip if we're lucky (3 days travelling to get to the island is NO fun)

You can see a picture of us with our son in our wedding dresses as part of our second wedding, done in traditional Fijian ways up in the hills, just click the "meet the members" link in my sig.


I am soooo lucky, and am getting teary eyed just writing this

 

[Night61]

Kai that is actually very encouraging to me seeing i currently work as a desk clerk at a hotel, maybe someday my prince charming checks in

 

[kaivalagi]

Kai that is actually very encouraging to me seeing i currently work as a desk clerk at a hotel, maybe someday my prince charming checks in

I was 26 and Maraia (my wife) was 25...we had both been through some relationships in the past and had never found anything of substance...

Just be yourself and someone will appreciate you for who you are! It works both ways...


edit: get out and about doing what you want not what is expected to get "results", then I am sure you'll find someone who it all just clicks with...don't try too hard if that makes sense...I for example had given up on a decent relationship for a while and went travelling to find myself, I wasn't even looking and them bam!

 

[kribensis12]

I am currently dating at the moment. I met my girlfriend at her locker almost 2 years ago. She had been through three lockers and finally ended up 2 away from me. She couldn't get it open, so I offered to help. Then come homecoming time, I got the courage to ask her to homecoming. She said yes. I asked her to be my girlfriend (officially) on Jan. 14th 2009 (her birthday). We have now been together for over a year and 4 months. We have never broken up, never got into real serious fights, we both love each other, and it's nice. It's nice to know that someone else at there gets you. That someone out there loves you. We have been talking before and we plan to get married some day. I love her, and I can't imagine that ever changing. I feel like we have a pretty solid relationship considering that we are both virgins, and we are still together. A lot of high school couples and older ones too tend to believe that having sex will make them closer, or that it will ensure that they have a lasting relationship, or that it'll make them happy. I think my girlfriend and I stand to point that it is not necessary before marriage (just our personal views).

 

[GAB99]

I am currently dating at the moment. I met my girlfriend at her locker almost 2 years ago. She had been through three lockers and finally ended up 2 away from me. She couldn't get it open, so I offered to help. Then come homecoming time, I got the courage to ask her to homecoming. She said yes. I asked her to be my girlfriend (officially) on Jan. 14th 2009 (her birthday). We have now been together for over a year and 4 months. We have never broken up, never got into real serious fights, we both love each other, and it's nice. It's nice to know that someone else at there gets you. That someone out there loves you. We have been talking before and we plan to get married some day. I love her, and I can't imagine that ever changing. I feel like we have a pretty solid relationship considering that we are both virgins, and we are still together. A lot of high school couples and older ones too tend to believe that having sex will make them closer, or that it will ensure that they have a lasting relationship, or that it'll make them happy. I think my girlfriend and I stand to point that it is not necessary before marriage (just our personal views).

thats sweet, and im not saying it sarcastically

the one time i had courage was in the 7th grade and we didnt know what the heck we were doing lol, i bought her a 30$ necklace from the dominican republic and asked her to be my girlfriend and ask her to the end of year dance, she said yes and we had fun, on the last day of school (last day ill ever see her as i was moving away from georgia) she was crying and she gave me a kiss, and now im moving back again but she moved to somewhere else, and i guess that makes me not want to have another girlfriend becuase of what happened last time.

btw she still wears it after 3 years

 

[steelhealr]

Having been to Fiji, here's a kava kava to you kai. The people were wonderful to us there and told us how the song "You are My Sunshine" became popular there.

You usually meet the one you love when, you are NOT looking. SH

 

[kaivalagi]

Having been to Fiji, here's a kava kava to you kai. The people were wonderful to us there and told us how the song "You are My Sunshine" became popular there.

You usually meet the one you love when, you are NOT looking. SH

Couldn't resist:

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Do you see the guy in the back, quality!