Jeff,
I agree with rabbut that you are underestimating the time it might take to have a large bacterial growth in the new Rena XP3. While it should proceed rapidly since the 350 is there supplying the presence of the right two species in the tank, the time it takes for new populations to anchor on the brand new media in the XP3 is unpredictable. On top of that it would be hard to actually know whether it has happened or not, since the test results you look at are a result of the combined work of both filters. You will just have to wait some set time like 4 weeks and then be prepared for a potential mini-cycle or worse when you remove the 350 from the tank.
If you removed 50% of your carbon, which if I remember right is serving as your only bio-anchor, you may experience some faltering in your fishless cycling process, although it sounds like you are still getting down to zero in some unstated amount of time.
You said: "Will keep adding ammonia, not sure how long or when it may be safe to add fish."
This should be clear from your reading off the RDD article and your participation here - you are always watching to see whether, when you add 4-5ppm of ammonia, your filter system can process both ammonia and nitrites down to 0ppm within 10-12 hours and then repeatedly do that for a week before the end where you change out all the water and stock the new fish.
Concerning the new XP3 output, I wouldn't hesitate to experiment repeatedly with the spray bar or other such that you get the flow very parallel to the surface. You will eventually find a sweet spot where you get maximum surface movement with minimum noise and as long as you promise yourself not to miss good water changes, I see nothing wrong with topping up a small amount of water occassionally to offset evaporation and keep your surface quiet. Of course this advice is mostly for after fish, as currently you are probably agitating with airstones and have more noise from that.
~~waterdrop~~