They sound stressed. Gouramies love loads of plants to play and hide in. To the point where even the biggest can disappear if they want to. They also love plenty of space each. Mine practically have a species tank now, with the exception of one young female b.n and baby syno I've not been able to catch yet.
Oh and an oto that is rarely seen due to the major heavy planting. They live in a 35g and there's 2 males and 3 females....and alot of fry I've failed to catch so far to put in their fry tank.
The males have territories up either end of the tank and don't fight each other, mostly because one male is far bigger then the other despite being the same age. The girls use the whole tank and occassionally get enticed into the males zones for some fun.
I mention this because it may be they don't feel happy enough to be establishing territories and males get upset without their own space. Females will get stressed sometimes if they're carrying alot of eggs but it wouldn't last this long.
I wouldn't keep anything else with them. They can get aggressive and/or stressed very easily. The only one I've seen act like that was being bullied and I lost her after less then 24 hours. She did throw herself about alot.
Try and discover the cause of the stress by trial and error. Check no body spray or some such is getting into the tank. They are air breathers and as such will be far more affected by such things then any other fish.
Changed any food types lately? I find mine are quite particular about what flake food they like, despite having a massively varied diet.
Best of luck.
Hugs,
P.