I think going for a lower light level will help you out until you grow your green thumbs. In my first planted tank, about 5 years ago, I struggled with bad greenwater and BGA, had too much light (3+ WPG) and not enough CO2 or nutrients and people here helped me out. Everybody has a stage where they start out and make mistakes.
Liz
Well I agree with you on the the possibility of lowering the intensity of my lights but I don't think it's inevitable just yet as I may be able to work with the current light set-up by changing how I plant things (i.e. start to space them a part more), moving some of my appliances around the tank (especially DC) etc.
Also, modifying what lights I have will involve not just swapping the fluorescent tube but the entire electrics. So it's a job i'm not really looking forward to since it will invalidate my warranty with Cayman and there's no way of knowing whether or not the modifications will be safe with water.
Well, if you're going to keep your lighting... You'll need to...
1. Keep that CO2 working and stable
2. Get a handle on the ferts
3. Make sure the flow is strong
4. Add more plants, I'm not kidding, you'll need a much higher plant mass than what you've got. My current tank is a higher light setup, about 48W of T5HO over 17g or so. The plant mass is massive.
5. Like you said, separate the plants and plant them properly as I suggested above. Don't be afraid to be rough. I've seen stemplants recover and thrive even when wittled down to a single leaf or two. And my eleocharis was in a tub outside in the elements before I planted it. Came as brown mush after a bad delivery with a couple white roots and green leaves. Plants are pretty tough.
Sorry, for a dumb question, but what's your photoperiod?
Liz