Thanks much for your help all, especially Seffie

I didn't intend to come off as ungrateful, has just been a tough week and I have had several bad experiences with saltwater over the years and just hate losing fish (but I just can't stand freshwater fish). Primarily my problems have involved me not doing enough research and putting fish in my tanks that were either just too big or had no business being in there for some reason.
We have all been there - bad weeks in fish keeping, can be very bad indeed
Concerning the anemone and coral, yeah I know now I guess they need .026 so I will build that up over the next couple weeks I think its at .022-.023 now. I didn't realize they were for advanced, established tanks so all I can do is get the salinity up, cross my fingers and hope they make it.
Excellent - would you mind posting us a picture of the nem, so we can see what sort it is - many require very high levels of light and go white (bleach) when they are not getting enough!
I doubt I will put any more corals or inverts into the tank but they have a good light (its a 50/50 light that can support a small amount of coral life).
What sort of light - T5 or T8?
I feed them 1-2 times a week and they seem to be thriving.
Excellent - what are you feeding the nem?
The coral blooms everyday for long periods of time and the anemone (its a white long tentacled) has moved around quite a bit.
nems move when they are unhappy, they are searching for a better place to put their foot
As far as the tank not being cycled, I think I did it right this time. It was a smaller tank (20 gallons) and I had 12 pounds of live rock in there from the beginning with live sand as a substrate.
Great
The tank cycled very quickly but I still waited like 2.5 weeks and was getting the same results (no nitrite and no ammonia).
Excellent and I hope Nitrates <10
I could only assume a tank that size had cycled. Now there is about 20 pounds of live rock in the tank. From most people I have talked to smaller tanks with good amounts of live sand and rock cycle fast.
They will cycle fast if the live rock is well cured and not out of water long - do I assume from your statement that you added extra live rock? if so, this may be the cause of your deaths, you would have had a mini cycle
I will change my water changing mode to 4 gallons every week; I think 2 gallons every 10 days just wasn't enough.
I agree
Once the nitrates go down I will think about maybe putting one more fish in there but honestly I think I just want the 2 clowns (assuming they live) and one other. I'm guessing a damsel is a bad choice? What about a mandarin? Or coral beauty?
Ok, 20 gallon tank and two clowns, everyone knows what I think about that - but you have them now so lets keep them alive
don't put anything else in there, fish or invertibrate wise until everything is more stable. If it were me I would leave it 28 days to be sure. A mandy is do-able if you are prepared to set-up a pod culture, its very easy to do and you could concentrate on that whilst waiting for your tank to stabalise. However you need to have been feeding the tank every three days with copepods for lets say approx a month (so thats two months) - then look for a small, fat mandy. The beauty is out of the question, sorry. You would be better off with a small goby rather than either the mandy or the CB - if it were me, I would learn from this tank and then in the future get a bigger tank for the mandy, Mandys really need 90lbs of live rock to be healthy. I hope I don't sound negative, I don't mean to and sounds to me like you now are really on your way to becoming a salty