I knew how you feel with my 40g, planted and wasnt working, so i sold all the equipment that i used for the plants, put the fish in a 25 gal and just got Vallis and Moss. SO i took my 40 g and the extra cash i had and made it into an African Malawi Setup(as you know, and you have one too) Now im happy with it(except for the Yellow Labs), easy as pie. IMO fish keeping shouldnt be hard, you just need to find your forte in it, your safe area.Dwarf New World Cichlids and Dwarf Malawi Cichlids are mine. You shouldn't do something that you dont enjoy.
HTH and good luck with the tank
DD
HTH and good luck with the tank
DD