I need a rant, and if anyone has any advice for me too, then so much the better 
I bought my first tank at easter. I have been fishless cycling it since (10 weeks) and it's still not done, even started off with filter rinsings, then half the media replaced with mature
I have taken small amounts of media from it for 2 other filters. One in my betta tank (1) in which stats are quite low, but not showing any signs of dropping on their own.
The other a sponge filter I made myself which is in a fishless cycle at work and progressing nicely.
I cycled some media from a filter for another betta tank (2) in with my main tank for 7 weeks and now it's in with the betta, it may as well not be there. It had very high nitrites at first and I was water changing 3 times a day to keep them down to 0. Then 6 days in, I realised I had to keep stats at about 0.25, not 0 as then the bacteria wouldn't have anything to feed on. I've had a few signs of nitrites since then, but very little and ammonia isn't being processed at all. It just gradually increases, I do a water change and it builds up again.
I just want a tank with a fish in that I can relax and not worry about. Betta (2) is supposed to live at work, but it was only there 4 days until the first weekend, then the stats has been so all over the place, I didn't dare leave it so it's been at home since and for the forseeable future.
I knew there was going to be some patience required, but 10 weeks in and I'm still doing water checks twice a day and water changes up to once a day-it's killing me!
I've got through a whole set of API ammonia testing kits and I'm sick of trying to decide whether it's yellow or a tint of green.
I am thinking of putting the media from betta tank (2) back in the main fishless cycling tank and replacing it with fresh from there. It means it will set the main tank back (again!) but it might be worth it if I can stop having to worry about and constantly check betta (2).
Thoughts, advice and words of encouragement gratefully received
I bought my first tank at easter. I have been fishless cycling it since (10 weeks) and it's still not done, even started off with filter rinsings, then half the media replaced with mature
I have taken small amounts of media from it for 2 other filters. One in my betta tank (1) in which stats are quite low, but not showing any signs of dropping on their own.
The other a sponge filter I made myself which is in a fishless cycle at work and progressing nicely.
I cycled some media from a filter for another betta tank (2) in with my main tank for 7 weeks and now it's in with the betta, it may as well not be there. It had very high nitrites at first and I was water changing 3 times a day to keep them down to 0. Then 6 days in, I realised I had to keep stats at about 0.25, not 0 as then the bacteria wouldn't have anything to feed on. I've had a few signs of nitrites since then, but very little and ammonia isn't being processed at all. It just gradually increases, I do a water change and it builds up again.
I just want a tank with a fish in that I can relax and not worry about. Betta (2) is supposed to live at work, but it was only there 4 days until the first weekend, then the stats has been so all over the place, I didn't dare leave it so it's been at home since and for the forseeable future.
I knew there was going to be some patience required, but 10 weeks in and I'm still doing water checks twice a day and water changes up to once a day-it's killing me!
I've got through a whole set of API ammonia testing kits and I'm sick of trying to decide whether it's yellow or a tint of green.
I am thinking of putting the media from betta tank (2) back in the main fishless cycling tank and replacing it with fresh from there. It means it will set the main tank back (again!) but it might be worth it if I can stop having to worry about and constantly check betta (2).
Thoughts, advice and words of encouragement gratefully received

) and I have just got a 0,0, although the pH has crashed again and is at 6.4!
