Berry, you are right about the snails but wouldn't they reproduce uncontrollably if over feeding was an issue? Or were you saying to do that if she was feeding 3 times a day? You also said that tanks should be by the window, I am assuming you meant shouldn't be. I'm not trying to be the grammar police but that may be confusing to the OP.
Caiti, if you want to try your hand at live plants again I would encourage it. There are lots of plants out there that don't have major light/care requirements that still look nice in the aquarium. I started with all fake plants and am currently working my way up to a low-med light low tech fully planted tank. I have had my share of plant issues but through researching and asking questions on this sight and others I have learned a lot. Now my live plants look great.