Dianne,
Are you getting the details of Fishless and Fish-In cycling confused? They are very different procedures, so when you read threads about cycling, one of the first things you have to do is determine clearly which type of cycling is being discussed.
In Fishless cycling it is true that problems (stalling) can occur up at about 8ppm. That is why 5-6ppm is considered to be the "sweet spot" for the first phase. In Fish-In cycling you have FISH in there! You have to strive for 0ppm ammonia at all times with fish in the tank. That's why Fish-In cycling can take quite a while and be a lot of trouble, you have to do all those water changes to keep the ammonia and nitrite as close to zero as possible.
The filter will still cycle because even water changes can't really keep things at zero all the time, so enough ammonia and nitrite will make their way through the filter that small bacteria populations will slowly build up.
(Sorry if off base for your situation or if this is somehow wrong! Just trying to help a little.)
~~waterdrop~~