I'm so mad at my dad

[crazyelece]

Instead of being pissed off at your father, you ought to thank him for the things you do have. You obviously have a computer and access to the internet. You really need to remember who pays for the electric that powers the aquarium, the water that fills it, and the room(s) to house it(them) in. Its not always about being able to afford the aquarium, equipment, and fish.

And I can tell you killing your dad with kindness and thanking him regularly for what you do have will get you a good deal further than getting all pissed off and yelling at him for saying no.

 

[afireinside]

That is the problem, he hardly says anything nice to me. He even questions me why I go into the bathroom, sorta odd eh?

 

[ScoutCarcer]

Instead of being pissed off at your father, you ought to thank him for the things you do have. You obviously have a computer and access to the internet. You really need to remember who pays for the electric that powers the aquarium, the water that fills it, and the room(s) to house it(them) in. Its not always about being able to afford the aquarium, equipment, and fish.

And I can tell you killing your dad with kindness and thanking him regularly for what you do have will get you a good deal further than getting all pissed off and yelling at him for saying no.

Most people arent going to agree with me but thats awful advise

 

[Teelie]

My dad wasn't much better. Fortunate for me I'm no longer living with my parents.

 

[Briarmoor]

I totally disagree about other people's junk, the saying goes it might be someone else's treasure. My mom is always going to yard sales and buying stuff. It drives my dad nuts. Then she gets too much stuff and sends it home with me which drives my husband nuts!

But maybe if you keep your room neat, it will help in those impromptu situations so you have some backup. If he is hedging, you can say, I kept my room clean for xx months/weeks/days (depending how messy you are ).

I know my husband is much grumpier if I clutter the house and throw my shoes everywhere. He is much happier if I pick up after myself. I hate to break it to you, if you are messy now, it is easy to stay messy and I don't like being messy, I just have to try harder to overcome that bad habit.

It was kinda hurtful to say he didn't care about your fish. I am an optomistic person, maybe he was just having a bad day.

If I had kids, I'd be way more excited that they were obsessed with fish than sex or drugs or crime. JMO.

 

[jolaf]

Kudos to that Thankful children make all the while worth it!

Instead of being pissed off at your father, you ought to thank him for the things you do have. You obviously have a computer and access to the internet. You really need to remember who pays for the electric that powers the aquarium, the water that fills it, and the room(s) to house it(them) in. Its not always about being able to afford the aquarium, equipment, and fish.

And I can tell you killing your dad with kindness and thanking him regularly for what you do have will get you a good deal further than getting all pissed off and yelling at him for saying no.

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[Synirr]

Ugh, my dad does the same thing all the time... overreacts, that is. I don't blame your dad for not wanting you to get more tanks, I'm sure he has his reasons, but he could have been nicer about it.

 

[kevin007]

psh, be like me, go ahead buy a 55G for $200 and filter media and all that stuff, go home, tore apart the top of a shelf, stick the tank ontop, set it up. They know from my previous 2 tanks that they all look freakin good, and now my 55G is the first thing you see when you enter the house, amazes everyone, and paretns look at it after dinner. It is a peice of decoration now, rather than a tank.

 

[brown metal-head]

I think parents are programmed to say no. After all isn't no one of the first words a child learns? Thats why they are saying no alot.

Instead of being pissed off at your father, you ought to thank him for the things you do have. You obviously have a computer and access to the internet. You really need to remember who pays for the electric that powers the aquarium, the water that fills it, and the room(s) to house it(them) in. Its not always about being able to afford the aquarium, equipment, and fish.

And I can tell you killing your dad with kindness and thanking him regularly for what you do have will get you a good deal further than getting all pissed off and yelling at him for saying no.

Parents may appreciate it there is no doubt about that but then they get even more defensive because they think your buttering them up. although it may help a little. I got my fish tank for being patient and waiting to get one.

I'm sorry your dad doesn't share your sense of humor. One thing though I am really courious why your dad would say I don't care abot your fish. If my mom or dad said that to me I would do something I would be pissed too and do something I would regret. You probably love your fish. IMO your dad went out of bounds in saying that.

 

[afireinside]

That is the problem, he hardly says anything nice to me. He even questions me why I go into the bathroom, sorta odd eh?

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He does that to. But I mean it, your going to the bathroom, your in there, and your dad asks why your in there! isn't it sorta obvious why your are in it.

 

[Weaver]

I always remember 2 phrases from my teenage years
1 As long as you are under this roof you will do as I say,when you have your own house you can do what you want
2 Change your ways or change your address
Everyone spent their teenage years mad at their parents.
Be nice,pick your moment and you can get your tank
BTW when I want to use the bathroom every second someone else is in there is an eternity!
Cheers
DR PHIL
ps Guess who regularly uses phrases 1 and 2 now?

 

[Saz]

Don't worry sweetie all dads have bad days. I'm only 15 so everything I do is observed by my dad. It can be irritating because he thinks he knows best when he hasn't read a single fish book in his life.

My dad recently suggested that I should destroy some of my guppies cos I had too many. After breeding again and again I must admit they are weaker than they used to be but they still have the right to live. When I said this he got really angry and started insulting me.

My dad also takes jokes the wrong way, it's best not to make any! Just keep out of his hair and things will settle down just enjoy your hobby and don't let other people's opinions put u down.

Chin up and smile!

 

[Blade118]

I think if you earn your money urself you can buy anything with it






whats it got to do woth parents what you dont buy and buy





lucky ma parents love ma tank

 

[redbetta]

I buy mostly everything with my money, so I go out and buy whatever and then when I come back they see it. They can't say much to that lol.

 

[crazyelece]

"I think if you earn your money urself you can buy anything with it"

I agree 100%. If you earned the money, you have the right to spend it however you see fit. But buying a tank, equipment, and fish is all fine and dandy; who pays the electric bill that powers the lights filters and heaters? Who pays the water bill.

Here is the problem - every adult in the world at one time was a child; but the reverse is not the case. Hense parents for the most part understand where the child is coming from but they see a larger picture and make decisions accordingly. A child doesn't grasp the understanding an adult does. I don't care what you think or how mature you think you are. Experience is the key and a child doesn't have it.

I don't know how many times I wish I could turn back the clock and be in school again. Its a hell of alot easier than work. Do yourself a favor and live your childhood up.