How Can I Persuade Him?

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Earlier today i asked my Dad if i could get a tank with my own money. He just looked at me and said "your going to uni soon, what will you do with all your fish then?" (if i do go to uni that will be in just under 3 years) :crazy:

I said if i cant keep up with looking after them at uni then i'll sell my fish and tanks. He just looked at me as if to say "oh ye.." :grr:

Can anyone come up with convincing arguments that might make him change his mind? :look:
 
You bring him online to this forum and have a browse through the members tanks section and show him how theraputic a tank can be. He'll soon see how beneficial keeping a tank can be. From things such as reducing stress in life to keeping a routine. A usefull site i found a long while ago will come in hand i feel. Gimme a sec to dig it out.


Benefits of an Aquarium


Let your dad have a read through this, if he hasnt the time too you can take some points down and show him ;)


Members on here could give you a million reasons why a fish tank is beneficial. Maybe, just maybe if enough people put a reason down it could almost be a petition to hand to your dad :lol:
 
How many do you have already? This isn't your first tank, is it? I was gonna say just tell him you'll take it with you to your dorm (if you choose to live on campus that is), but if you already have a few tanks I can see where that's a problem...

Not to side with your dad or anything, but I'm holding myself back on getting more tanks (and cats) because I am going off to college this summer, and I don't think I'd manage to sneak any more than my 20 gallon and my betta tank into my dorm... They only allow a 10 gallon tank where I'm going. I just don't think I could handle trying to find new homes for fish and deciding which to part with, or chance leaving them at home with my parents. Even if its something you really really want, he might have the right intentions with discouraging you from getting another one.

Three years is a long time though, it's not like you have college coming up right around the corner. Some of the fish might even be dead by the time 3 years is up. If you're living at home instead of on campus there isn't the difficulty of having to move tanks back and forth or anything. Try to convince him it's something you really like to do, and that its not completely irreversible, like you said you can sell the fish and the tanks if it gets to be too much.
 
It's important to get your dad on-side, as he's the one paying the water bills (which will most definitely increase), and the electricity bills (running those lights isn't cheap!). With this in mind, here are three good University-related reasons to get your own fish tank;

As someone who has just successfully finished a three-year course at Uni, I can tell you that three of the most important character traits you'll need to develop to survive your new-found independant University life are personal accounting (budgeting), time management, and a sense of personal responsibility.

You'll need to be able to budget in order to survive. Food and rent aren't cheap (neither is beer ;)), plus most beginner students aren't used to budgeting in advance(I.E. your student loan will come at a set time every term, and you have to stretch it as far as possible using paychecks from perhaps a part-time job to buoy the coffers).

I can tell you right now from first-hand experience that a fish tank is a major money sink, and someone without a stable income has to budget very carefully to be able to afford all the equipment, plants, and stock required.

Time management is a skill that again, most beginner students have no idea about. At secondary school and 6th Form, your lessons are pre-timetabled for you in set blocks each day, and you do your homework as you get assigned it. Brilliant. University is different. You'll have to quickly learn how to plan your battle strategy in order to get to all your lectures, conduct your research, write your essays, and not to mention carry out a copious social life. Hours are different too - not to mention your lectures will most likely be spread over different venues.

Having your own fish tank will teach you the benefit of regular scheduled maintenance, water changes, etc., and also help you to learn to adapt your routine at the last minute ("Argh! Is that fin-rot?!") - both of which are very useful when dealing with the challenges student life often presents.

Personal responsibility is very obvious. You don't go to lectures or do the coursework, you don't pass the exams and get your degree. Simple as. Mummy and Daddy aren't there to drag you out of bed in the morning, make your breakfast and help you with your homework, and the university aren't bothered - they've got your cash already. The onus is on you to step up and prove you're worth the financial outlay going to University costs these days.

With a fish tank, it's up to you to ensure the tank is clean and properly maintained, and that the fish are well-fed and healthy. They rely on you to live, and you're 100% responsible for them. This extends to ensuring you have the financial means to care for them as well.

Ben.
 
Could I ask whether the university you are going to allows pets or not? If they don't then I kind of understand your dad's argument depending on how many tanks you already have. Only becuase all the maintenance will fall on him.
But if you are allowed them on campus then I don't see a problem at all.
 
Sorry, should have added: unless you are willing to come home from uni to service your aquarium(s?) when they need it? :)
 
i get your points.. :thanks:

Its not like im going this year though.. if i do go, it will be in 3 years time.. :teacher: And i will probs be coming home most weekends when i do..

hmm.. i think i will just be really good and do some more jobs round the house. :nerd:



Cheers,
Imogen
 

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