Gold and opaline (as well as blue, lavender, cosby and platinum) are color morphs of the same species - Trichogaster trichopterus. They are collectively known as three-spot gouramies (after the wild morph's pattern - two spots + the eye). They are a particularly aggressive gourami species and by no means representative of other types. If you are after a community gourami, try a trio of pearls (Trichogaster leeri) or a trio of bandeds (Colisa fasciata).
Secondly, shouldn't be kept as pairs

It's a shame most LFSs don't bother to mention this or even encourage people to buy pairs. With three-spots, even a trio rarely works. Males are highly aggressive and if you remove the male, 2 females will simply turn on each other. If you keep a large group (eg: 4 females and a male), you don't have problems as aggression is split between several individuals (same as with African rift lake cichlids). However, these hardy gouramies are also extremely easy to breed and, once they spawn, aggression does increase. What I reccomend is to either keep them singly or in a large female-only group.
In your case, the pair didn't work out for the afformentioned reasons. Adding another female didn't work because she was added late and would simply be viewed as an intruder and removing the male never helps if all you have left is two fish - one of which is bound to take the male's place and dominate the other.
The solution right now, unfortunately, is simply to return two of the fish and keep the third. I'd personaly keep a female if you want a peaceful tank though a single male also works if you provide your other fish with hiding places and provide the gourami with some floating plants (to encourage him to establish one area in the tank as 'his' territory, leaving the rest alone).
Alternatively, return all three fish to your LFS and get a trio of pearls or bandeds (like I mentioned earlier) instead.