Sorry there's no way I can tell from that angle but, by the sounds of it, that must be a female. The other is male.
To clarify certain things -
DWARF gourami females tend to be a duller silver or brown with faint striping. Dwarf gouramies are
colisa lalia.
HONEY gouramies are different. Males are brighter than females but certain color morphs produce brightly colored females as well. Honey gouramies are
colisa chuna or
colisa sota (both
sota and
chuna reffer to the same fish).
The confusion arises because a lot of LFSs label
colisa lalia with various fancy names to match their colors - a marketing strategy that result in entirely unecessary mix-ups. These names include things like 'neon', 'neon blue', 'flame', 'red' and, unfortunately 'honey'.
To complicate matters further, a lot of LFSs call
colisa chuna/sota 'honey DWARF gouramies'. Again, I suppose this is to emphasize their small size - or perhaps they simply don't know they have a different species

One other explanation is also another reason for a lot of the confusion...
Some people consider all gouramies in the
colisa genus to be 'dwarfs' in the sense that they are relatively small. It's quite obvious to see that a lot of other gouramies, not belonging to this genus, are even smaller and, IMO, labelling them all as 'dwarfs' just confuses matters.
Add on top of all this that several other species of gourami are sometimes mislabelled 'dwarf' or 'honey' gourami and consider that there's also a honey/dwarf hybrid circulating and you can see the problem.
Like I've said before - just use the scientific names and w won't have trouble
As for sexing them - in dwarf gouramies the male's fins appear longer and, the anal fin in particular, has a 'bulbous' appearance to it. They are also obviously quite a bit brighter (though females can have some coloring as well) and females are rounded around the belly area and appear wider when viewed from above. Dwarf gourami males also tend to grow a little larger than the females though they look slimmer.
In the case of honey gouramies, the body shape differences still apply (as they do with most fish in fact) but the fins are not as obviously different and the color is not usualy a reliable way of sexing them. In the wild-type honey females and juvenile fish are a translucent brown with a horizontal stripe running along the body. Males, in contrast, become a honey-yellow color and, when in breeding condition, darken and develop a blue-black udnerside. Unfortunately, many of the cultivated varieties (ie: red honey) are more difficult to sex as the females are also quite brightly colored and, in some cases, the males don't develop the black coloring at all.
The fish in the picture above can't be a wild-type honey (regardless of sex) as the color isn't right - if it's a honey, it must be one of the various color morphs. The color could also have it down as a male dwarf gourami - but not a female - and, for that matter, the black I see on it would be very unusual for a dwarf. As your other gourami is deffinately a male dwarf, it looks like this must be a female honey (or a dwarf/honey hybrid is also a possibility). One other possibility I had not considered is that it may be an entirely different species from what I assumed (within the
colisa genus still). I doubt it but, just to make sure, how big is it and how long have you had it?
As for the fry surviving, I disagree with Miss Dib Dabs, if you don't feed them and if you have other mid-dwelling fish in the tank, they'll either get eaten or starve. Dwarf or honey gourami fry are tiny and require very small foods. If you have infusoria (plants are a source) in the tank they may well make it to a point - at least some will - but they have ridiculous appetites and can become canibalistic if hungry. With other fish in the tank as well and no larger foods to sustain them later as they grow, the number will quickly decrease. The few that may be left do stand a chance of surviving but, hopefuly, you'd be able to keep them yourself rather than give them up to an LFS (where someone irresponsible is bound to come along and breed a huge batch of hybrids).
Anyway, can you get a side picture of her?