In my opinion, standard fishless cycles (around since 1980 or so), fishless cycles with mature media, fish-in cycles and fish-in silent cycles are all perfectly fine ways to go about preparing a new tank for fish. In all these cases it makes a huge difference for a beginner to have experienced oversight and of course, by definition, the fish-in techniques endanger the fish (in the case of beginner mistakes) whereas there are no fish to be endangered with the fishless techniques.
Typically, the standard fishless cycle need only be used once, when one has no source of mature media (mature media from one's own filter being available thereafter.) It is also fairly typical that the fish-in cycle is more work, but by matching a small bioload to the water volume, this need not be the case. Many very experienced aquarists with practice doing both techniques end up choosing the fishless technique to simply take away even the small toxin exposures to their fish and because the technique is so easy once it becomes familiar.
The fish-in silent cycle is delightfully natural, but is unfortunately rather risky for beginners. The very same large mass of plants that does such a good job clearing the water of ammonia can backfire on you if the plants begin to die, which is often the case if the beginner is also a beginner with plants. In the hands of a seasoned planted tank expert however (who is doing the silent cycle or able to give a beginner hands-on help perhaps) the fish-in silent cycle is quite nice.
Here in beginners section many of us have found the nice long closely guided first fishless cycle (the standard type with household ammonia) is much more than just a way to get a first tank up and running, it is a way for beginners to get an incomparable first lesson in biofilters that sticks with them for years to come and helps them more quickly get up to speed on that same "sense of your fish" that the OP describes. It is like school compared to reading a new topic. A little bit of trial and error and having to think about it. A little bit of having to ask questions and discuss it with other hobbyists. The beginner who carries out this task of lots of measuring, lots of learning "why" is just going to be left with a much deeper understanding of the way we create and maintain really, really good fresh water in the hobby.
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