You are correct, the elongated, pointy dorsal fin is a sure sign that it is a male and is perfectly normal. They usually only develop these when they get older, making it difficult to sex them early on. The anal fin will become pointier as well. My guess is that all of the 'sexual tension' in your tank has brought these traits out. LOL
I could say something very rude to that
unfortunately not true, it is a reasonable indicator that it may be male, if taken with a few other pointers, given the overall finnage i am on the fence.
Fin extensions are not unusual, particularly in blue/turq lines