It's easier to answer some of your last questions first. For a dark opaline, if you want dark offspring, breed him to another dark opaline. Logical right? Also, there are no existing dark strains but they should certainly be possible to develop.
Now for the first part of your post. I was right before - you are confusing 'strain' or 'type' with 'species'. Anything you produce from three-spots will always be a three-spot. You'll never be able to create a completely new species. You are right in thinking that all species of gourami - if you go back in time - eventualy meet at a common anscestor. However, we are talking millions of years of natural selection - nothing you could acheive in even a lifetime. The process of evolution is very gradual and it has taken 3.5 billion years for human beings to evolve (to give you a sense of the time scale) from the first forms of life.
The popular deffinition of a 'species' is organisms that can interbreed to produce fertile offspring and are reproductively isolated from other species. By 'interbreeding to produce fertile offsping', I mean that you cannot cross two seperate species and produce babies that can themselves mate. A good example is the mule - donkeys and horses can interbreed to produce mules (or hinnies) but mules are infertile. By 'reproductively' isolated I mean that they don't naturaly meet or simply cannot reproduce in the wild. For example the raccoon butterflyfish from the red sea is isolated from other raccoon butterflyfish because of its location. You could equaly say this about dogs and wolves (though dogs are only a subspecies of wolves - not a seperate species) as they don't normaly meet for long enough to mate. The alternative to this is that they simply cannot mate even if they meet. An example would be mice and dogs - it simple won't work. The same would go for a livebearing fish like a guppy and something that lays eggs like a gourami. Also, there are cases where differences in courtship behaviour mean the two species can't cross - like different birds of paradise.
You might be wondering why species change enough to not be able to reproduce with each other in the first place - this is usualy the result of geographical isolation. For example, think of a small flock of birds that is blown off-course and onto a small island. For the sake of this explanation, imagine there are no other birds there but that there are various different flying insects to feed on. The flock of birds may have, originaly, belonged to a species that specialises in eating earthworms and has a beak 'designed' for pulling them out of the soil. Clearly, these birds will have difficulty, on the new island, finding earthworms (assume there aren't any) and will have to find a new source of food. The flying insects are a good bet and they start to feed on them. Now imagine, somewhere along the line, a chick is born with a tiny, tiny difference in the shape of its beak or maybe wings better suited to maneouvering. The change need only be minute - barely recognisable - to offer this chick an advantage. It'll be healthier, therefore, more successful at catching the flying insects, and it will mate and raise mroe chicks. Some of these chicks will also carry or display the 'improved' beak and/or winds and, so, will themselves, have an advantage. over many, many generations, these island birds will evolve to look significantly different to their anscestors that were swept in accidentaly from the nearby mainland. The descendants of the birds living on the mainland will also probably have evolved in a different direction (say now the number of earthworms has declined due to some other predator that was newly itnroduced). Over time, the two populations will diverge - growing so different that they couldn't reproduce even if they met. Now, they'd be considered seperate species when compared. This would take thousands of years though - if not millions.
Another criterion for classifying species is their appearance/body functions (biochemical, physiological, morphological etc). In some cases, these things are obvious - like a paradisefish and a bird of paradise - clearly very different species. However, sometimes this kind of thing is measleading (just think about how different some people look to each other - or maybe how different a peahen looks to a peacock!).
More recently, we've been able to look at the very DNA of species to see how closely related they are - the more closely related, the smaller the differences in their genes. We are very simlar to chimps, for example, as we have descended from a common anscestor - we are considerably different when compared to dogs, dolphins or horses - but even more different to a dragonfly or a crab as they are not even mammals. Ultimately though, all living things descended from some common anscestor.
The thing to understand is that 'species' are things
we specify. There is no 'cut-off' point where a new species is formed. In fact, there are living examples that demonstrate this - for example, there are two species of bird - the black backed gull and the herring gull that appear as different species in Europe. But - and this is a big 'but' - if you follow the herring gulls back towards North America, they gradualy change to look increasingly like herring gulls. Continue to follow them in a sort of semi-circle back to Europe - and gradualy they 'become' herring gulls. Herring gulls and black backed gulls are distinct species - they cannot interbreed. However, trace the line around and they may well appear to be the same bird! This is the case, ultimately, with all species - except, unlike with herring and black-backed gulls, the intermediates that join two distinct species have dissapeared - long extinct.
My point is that, while, by deffinition, you cannot create a new species during your lifetime (or the next few millenia!), species are not, in fact, very far removed from 'varieties' or 'types' - this is where different species begin
I don't know whether that's helped you or confused you though LOL
BTW pica_nuttalli, thanks for clarifying those points. I realy appreciate it as I know I can sometimes be quite conservative when writing (still ends up way too wordy though!). I miss a lot of stuff out