Hi Charlie,
Female black widows are generally larger than the males and have a rounder body. On a female the anal fin runs parallel with the vertical black stripe in her abdomen. Males are smaller, have a broader anal fin, and a narrower more pointed dorsal fin. Males occasionally have white spots on the caudal fin.
Larger males will generally claim a territory that they will guard during spawning periods. Although they are egg scatters they prefer to spawn among fine-leaved plants, which should be provided in the breeding tank. Once spawning has occurred the parents should be removed, as they will consume the eggs. Eggs will hatch after approximately one day. The fry may be fed freshly hatched brine shrimp, egg yolk, or finely ground flake foods.
HTH
Lawrence