The difficulty with many of the hard-to-keep marine organisms stems from the following:
- Lack of documentation in areas such as diet (a serious problem with many starfish) and behavior.
- The need for super stable conditions.
- Susceptibility to infection in the event of injury or stress.
- They are largely plucked from the wild, not raised and adapted to captive conditions. There are exceptions to this with anemones that have split in captivity. Obviously these are always preferable to those that have been wild caught but they are still quite fragile animals even if the are less susceptible to things like infection/disease.
Basically with many Echinoderms and anemones, if you screw up even a little bit, the most likely outcome is that the animal will die. There is little chance to save those animals once it's obvious that a problem exists.
Feed anemone shrimp, and bloodworms
Get some books on the animals you're interested in. There is a great beginner-level book on anemones even if some of the filtration info it has is a little out of date (I forget the title, but as far as I know it's the only one out there, so if you find a big fat book on anemones in aquariums you've found the right one). Most of the common desirable species in the hobby are photosynthetic (rather demandingly so) and you can actually kill an anemone by feeding it too large a food item - it will not digest fully before it starts to decay and the anemone is essentially taken out by food poisoning if it doesn't eject the uneaten food fast enough. More on less desirable anemones in a minute.
An your saying it would be better to add starfish and snemones later after a couple weeks???
The guideline already given of ~6 months is standard for desirable anemones. For starfish (true stars that is) and cucumbers, the correct answer for most tanks is never to add them in the first place. Most marine systems are totally unable to support the diets of those animals. The exceptions fall into the category of eat-everything-in-your-tank starfish, in which case it's obvious why the animals are still problematic even if they are conveniently easy to feed.
So I should remove any anemones that just grow on their own on the LR???
In all but the rarest cases, you will have one of two types of anemones show up on rock: Aiptasiids or Majano anemones. Unfortunately these are the two types of anemones that are absurdly well-suited to captive environments and can thrive just about anywhere. You can mutilate them and melt them with caustic chemicals, but if you leave a little bit of the animal hanging around, it will bounce right back and continue to multiply. Both types of these anemones have the potential to stress and even melt some corals from their stings, so they are generally considered pests and hobbyists make an active effort to eliminate them before they become well-established. Every now and then you get a hitchhiker anemone in the Aiptasiidae family that doesn't reproduce out of control. These instead grow quite large and are great tank additions IMO, although it can be hard to tell early on whether you have one of those or one that will spawn millions of other anemones at the first opportunity (which is the majority of cases).
Other anemones such as carpet anemones, long tentacle anemones, etc. sold in stores are nowhere near as hardy as "pest" anemone species. Despite all being anemones taxonomically, it's really an apples and oranges situation.