they were probably shy because of the lack of tetras out swimming around. some males can also be quite territorial chasing any other rams away from whatever area its able to control. but once they become sexually mature he should start to accept the females company.
rams and apistos can co-exist peacefully, even in a tank ur size. of course there might be issues if either species starts spawning, but i would consider both fish able to do no more damage than what ur already observing with ur male ram chasing ur female ram
rams and apistos can co-exist peacefully, even in a tank ur size. of course there might be issues if either species starts spawning, but i would consider both fish able to do no more damage than what ur already observing with ur male ram chasing ur female ram

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they keep testing each other. I've read its pretty normal as long as they're not actively being aggressive all the time even if the other fish is backing away. If one backs away they generally swim apart.
I thought she was but sometimes she has quite manly behaviour in that the way she is aggresive towards the other ram.
hmph