Spouses & S.o.'s On Your Fishies?

[biogirl52]

How do your spouses and significant others like your tanks? Into it? Did they keep fish before they met you?

As much as I love my dear husband I would love him just a bit more if he shared my love of tropical fish keeping! D. He just barely tolerates it, he thinks it's a waste of space/electricity/water. I've been keeping fish for 8 years, and now that I FINALLY have a good job and free time - I've gotten married and am stuck in a small condo with no room for much more than my 37 gallon. Our 1st year anniversary gift was LETTING me set up a 20 gallon (it is a glorified nightlight to him). I just hate having to ask permission to set up fish tanks, but I suppose if I was single and lived alone the place would be over run

My dream tank is a 100+ gallon planted tank. Maybe one day

 

[Baccus]

My husband tolerates my tanks because most of them also contian his Guppies, but he can not understand my fascination for Shrimp and Loaches. Although he grants that the Pakastani loaches are not only pretty (and lovely and silky smooth on the odd time we have had to handle them) they are also great at snail erradication. Can't say I have ever asked permission to add another tank... the last one was a freebie and Hubby gladly went to work making a stand for it (good thing he likes welding ), but then I am well known for aquiring new pets unexpectedily the last additon to our home was Shiya a tiny feral kitten I found at work. Hubby only found out about Shiya when he came home that evening, after Shiya had already been bathed and had a hot water bottle, stuffed toy and cosey box to sleep in. But he's pretty used to finding some creature I have picked up being housed temperiarily in a box some where in the house.

 

[Essjay]

My husband also thinks fish are a waste of time. We got our fist fish when or sons came home from the fair with goldfish and obviously had to do some thing with them. So we got a 60 litre tank (yes, I know now.....) but I gave them away a year later and went tropical. It took about 10 years for him to give in and agree to me getting a bigger tank, and even then he thought anything bigger than 125 litres was too big. For some reason he seems to think furniture is more important than fish tanks.......

 

[mossonthemoon]

I guess I'm lucky. We decided together to get fish, and our current tank was an anniversary gift together. I do most of the planning, but he enjoys it and helps plant, arrange, etc. He also does a lot of the water changes. We love choosing fish together.

 

[PrairieSunflower]

My husband looked in one of my tanks... once.

Pretty much I'd have to grab him by the head and force his face in front of the tank for him to look. Completely not interested.

 

[Flute]

My boyfriend isn't interested in the slightest. He's tried to get involved, and whilst he does like shrimp, he has absolutely not interest in fish. Fortunately he has said as long as space is ample and we have the money, when we move in October I can look at upgrading to a 5 footer or so. So I'm quite thankful that even though he's not interested in my tanks, he's not mean enough to stop me from having them.

My mam on the other hand wont let my poor dad upgrade to anything bigger than his 140 ltr >.<

 

[Dieses Madchen]

My Malawi tank is actually my husband's tank . He scaped it, and stocked it, and he is the one the cleans it. The other 4 tanks are mine, but he gladly helps me take care of them. He also spends a lot of time looking at them, especially looking at my Green Terrors. I think he only teases the GT though, as GT likes to my grumpy faces at people.

 

[Aquascaper]

My wife and I started fishkeeping together, she had a 40g coldwater and I had a 40g tropical.....then it went wrong. I went overboard and ended up with 4 tanks and finally a 160g reef

Since moving home I've been banned from marines due the smell/equipment everywhere but have managed to be 'allowed' a 50g Cichlid tank.

To her a tank gets setup and then you feed/clean it whereas to me it's an ongoing search for perfection and she has little or no interest in the new tank

 

[biogirl52]

My Malawi tank is actually my husband's tank . He scaped it, and stocked it, and he is the one the cleans it. The other 4 tanks are mine, but he gladly helps me take care of them. He also spends a lot of time looking at them, especially looking at my Green Terrors. I think he only teases the GT though, as GT likes to my grumpy faces at people.

This would be such a turn on. LOL I love malawi tanks. My husband didn't even know what an angelfish was.

My boyfriend isn't interested in the slightest. He's tried to get involved, and whilst he does like shrimp, he has absolutely not interest in fish. Fortunately he has said as long as space is ample and we have the money, when we move in October I can look at upgrading to a 5 footer or so. So I'm quite thankful that even though he's not interested in my tanks, he's not mean enough to stop me from having them.

My mam on the other hand wont let my poor dad upgrade to anything bigger than his 140 ltr >.<

It's nice he at least lets you, after all - if you have the space and have the time and money to spare, why not? I just don't get why people don't love them,I mean even if you don't want to be actively involved or take care of them - who doesn't love watching a beautiful fish tank???

My husband also thinks fish are a waste of time. We got our fist fish when or sons came home from the fair with goldfish and obviously had to do some thing with them. So we got a 60 litre tank (yes, I know now.....) but I gave them away a year later and went tropical. It took about 10 years for him to give in and agree to me getting a bigger tank, and even then he thought anything bigger than 125 litres was too big. For some reason he seems to think furniture is more important than fish tanks.......

That is about the size of my tank and my husband thinks that is huge. I used to have a 55g aquarium and my parent's when I was younger and I thought that was mid-sized. To him that was HUMUNGOUS. I'm like oh wow you have nooooooooo idea about the extent of my needs

I guess I'm lucky. We decided together to get fish, and our current tank was an anniversary gift together. I do most of the planning, but he enjoys it and helps plant, arrange, etc. He also does a lot of the water changes. We love choosing fish together.

Love it! You are lucky.

My husband looked in one of my tanks... once.

Pretty much I'd have to grab him by the head and force his face in front of the tank for him to look. Completely not interested.

This is about my same experience. I don't think I've ever once caught him looking into the fish tank without me there pulling him down to show him something "interesting".

 

[phantomlink]

My girlfriend was into the idea of a new fishtank since my 30g with the piranhas freaked her out how they just stared. She had no idea truely how large the 125g was going to be till we went to.the store to pick it up. She likes the idea of fish as long as she gets to have some corydora in the tank to watch. I'm slowly teaching her about the chemicals and testing kits and whatnot. She loves to rearrange the furniture but with a 6 foot tank, and now the 4 foot tank I got so I can keep my catfish, her fun has been lowered but she seems ok with it