I have been looking in my lfs (including one local small shop and one petco ) Unfortunately they are both only getting in male blue rams. About 2 months ago I bought 4 rams, and chances being...all four were males. I'm just going to take it that the wholesaler or breeders or whoever the shops get their fish from only sell males. Is there any respectable retailer on the internet that gives you a choice of whether you want a male or female fish; especially rams?