I just went to a certain petstore looking for plants and saw a tank with 3 german blue rams in it. Perfect, this is what I wanted for my 29 gallon. I asked for a male and female and the lady was like, you can tell them apart right? So yeaa I THINK I got 1 male and 1 female. Im not positive. Can someone point me to pictures of each or ways to tell apart, I searched for pictures and everything but ya its hard to tell.