fish custody

[fishyjessie]

well.....thats it. we are divorcing. the problem is that we moved in together with one tank each and now there are 8 in the house. i have favorite fish and tanks, he has favorite fish and tanks......the kids have thier own fish tank (he is keeping his son and i am keeping mine)
now the fish issue. how do you divide custody of the fish? we know that we both want some fish that are in all sorts of different tanks. and the kids fish? everything else is decided. his dog, my dog, his plants, mine, boxes etc. another problem about all this is that i am moving in with my folks before i get back on my own. so there is not a lot of space to begin with for me to bring my tanks with me. this is a split on good terms tho, so i can leave my fish there for a bit untill i can move them.
question- has anyone done this before? advice?

 

[silver]

Ah geez!! I'm so sorry....... I feel so bad

Buuuuuut, onto the topic I guess you will just have to decide which are your up most favorite fish that you have become attached too and see if they are compatible to go into the same tank or maybe 2 I'm sure you thought of that, but I don't know what else to say!

Again, I'm sorry about the......you know.........divorce!

 

[Silly me]

I was wondering if this was you

, but guessing thats a zero..

I am not sure if I'm more worried about you that the fish.. sounds like you'll both take good care them either way?? since

i have favorite fish and tanks, he has favorite fish and tanks

take the fish that you more liked and let him take the fish that he liked??

 

[FishNoob]

Sorry to hear about your divorce. My wife and I always say if we get divorced we would end up in court over the dogs and now fish too.

I say, since it's all on good terms, to sit down and talk with him and both of you make a list of what fish you want. Then if any of the same fish show up on the both lists you both can discuss who gets which fish. You will both have to compromise, but make sure your both happy with the final decision.

Ed

 

[Nina7777]

That really sucks!

I like the writing down which ones you want and don't want.....but if it were me and we left on good terms, or even on bad terms.....I would just tell him which fish I wanted and those would be the fish I took.

IMO I wouldn't leave the tanks at his house while you get on your feet. You may say its on good terms now, but you never know what could happen within the next couple of months and you defiantely don't wanna be out all those fish tanks. I would try to set up one or two are your parents house. I'm sure they wouldn't mind if you explained to them how much they meant to you.

Good luck with whatever decision you make!

 

[fishyjessie]

thanks guys, i guess its all logic and we will hae to be mature about it. strange the only issue here is fish.... lol

 

[Opcn]

I'm so sorry to here that. If you like I can talk to the old parntal units about hanging on to one of your tanks for a while (less than twelve months).

 

[Gabe]

Sorry to hear about the divorce. I am glad to hear that the only problem is fish though! You are very lucky in that respect.

I agree that each making a list of fish you want would be a good idea. Then sit down and go over each list.

Gabe

 

[I_hate_platies]

I'd say that's a prime opportunity to get some new fish.
unless you have some years invested in the suckers ya already have, then they're worth something. I figure why not just take what you want? what's he going to do, sue you for fish thievery?

 

[noelberg]

seriously you can have a fish "draft". each make your own top 10 or whatever list, flip a coin to see who gets first pick, then take turns. edit: u can either do 1st pick person gets #1, next person gets #2, then 1st pick person gets #3 ... etc. picks; or 1st pick gets #1, then next person gets #2 and #3, then 1st pick person gets #4 and #5 ... and so on.

hope all goes well, and glad to hear the only big issue is fish

 

[fishyjessie]

i moved my very favorite fishes over to my folks today, we agree that the rest can stay at that house untill i get set back up. we both decided we want to move the fish the least possible times so they stay healthy. i think we will do the list ideas at some point, but not quite yet. im gonna miss my fish , but thanks for all your help guys. and your sweet opcn, but i dont think we will have to do that.

 

[I_hate_platies]

seriously you can have a fish "draft". each make your own top 10 or whatever list, flip a coin to see who gets first pick, then take turns. edit: u can either do 1st pick person gets #1, next person gets #2, then 1st pick person gets #3 ... etc. picks; or 1st pick gets #1, then next person gets #2 and #3, then 1st pick person gets #4 and #5 ... and so on.

hope all goes well, and glad to hear the only big issue is fish

ohh... THAT kind of draft. at first I thought you meant forcing all fish ages 18-25 to register. then, under threat of imprisonment, send them all over to a foreign land to die; their only legacy being a medal you send to their parents.

now I just feel silly.

 

[Opcn]

well that would certainly solve the custody problem but who would get the medals? And FJ I'm sorry I can't be of more help. Did you ever take Longhorns mollies?