No idea what they are called, but I guess you can call them antennaes or whiskers. They act like arms to feel around their surroundings since in their natural habitat, they can live in quite murky waters. Some people say they also have taste receptors on it, but I can't confirm this.
They can be kept with small tetras as they won't fit in their mouths, unless you are talking about kissing gouramis and giant gouramis, which will grow pretty large and might eat the tetras.