It's really difficult (and risky) to alter the pH of hard water by adding things (i.e. chemicals, etc)...for people with really hard water it's far better to remove things from the water...i.e. the buffering capacity.
The only way to lower the buffering capacity is to invest in a RO/DI filter system, or some other source of "pure" water. It's also important to understand that using only filtered water is a bad idea...it must be remineralized in some way either by cutting with tap water or commercial mineral products. This is an expensive, and advanced route to go...anyone who wants to invest in this kind of system should really have a good basic grasp of water chemistry (i.e. how a low GH/KH and other factors are going to affect your pH), and understand that they are making a commitment to always premixing the water, replacing filters, etc.