I have been trying to find this out too, googling is a bit hit & miss as some say there is no way to tell till they spawn, some say males have spots on their faces & females dont, some say males are generally bigger and thicker than females.
The only thing is take a look at verminators journal of his EBJD and normal female see if you can tell by looking at the pics of her. She has patches on her face rather than spots.
Sexing the Jack Dempsey becomes easier the larger the fish is. The easiest way to tell are the male has longer and more pointed dorsal and anal fins, a longer body, and less bluish/green coloration on the gill plate. The male will have brighter coloration on the dorsal fin.
The blue spots on the gill plate of the male will not reach the bottom of the gill as the females does.
The biggest giveaway with a Jack Dempsey is the gill plate. The males will have less blue spotting on the lower portion of the plate. The females tend to have a lot of blue spotting on the lower portion of the gill plate. It may even be so heavily spotted so as to look solid blue.